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fitsbi Master 2014-09-20 14:52:41 Public

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Take the
Organic Food Challenge 04. Oct

Eat organic for a month and take pictures of your delicious organic food. Each participant who eats organic for the whole month wins!
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fitsbi Contributor 2014-11-24 00:30:12 Public


Thanksgiving Menu

Thanksgiving Menu
Here’s a menu for a Thanksgiving feast with all the trimmings: turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy. We round out this healthy dinner with recipes for green beans, a festive tossed salad and, of course, pumpkin pie.
Plan ahead: The turkey needs to marinate in the flavorful brine for 2 days.

Jack & Sally Sparkling-Wine Cocktail
Mixed Green Salad with Pomegranate, Dates & Bacon
Cider-Brined Turkey
Apple Bourbon Gravy
Herbed Cornbread Stuffing
Roasted Garlic Mashed Potatoes
Green & Yellow Beans with Wild Mushrooms
Spiced Pumpkin Pie
Bourbon Whipped Cream
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fitsbi Master 2014-09-15 19:41:42 (Updated 2014-10-26 23:42:06) Public

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Event: Aerobic Training
December 29, 2014 (12:00 AM - 1:41 PM)

200 N College st, Charlotte, NC 23202 USA
Participants: 2 attending · 0 maybe · 0 declined

Aerobic training strengthens your cardiovascular system by increasing your heart rate and breathing. These exercises use large muscle groups to perform rhythmic actions for a sustained period of time. Typically, they are performed for longer than 15 minutes and should maintain your heart rate at between 60 percent to 80 percent of your maximum heart rate. Examples of aerobic exercise include fast walking, jogging, running, stair steppers, elliptical and swimming.

Event Admission: $5

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fitsbi Contributor 2014-11-24 02:30:02 Public


Dinner at the bellagio xxxx #aussieteam #naturalsthletes #models #bikinis #physique #bodybuilders #wesmashedit #welldonetous #nowletscelebrate

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fitsbi Contributor 2014-11-24 00:30:09 Public


How Do I Stop Choosing Women Who Are Wrong for Me?

Reader All the Wrong Women writes:

How do I get out of the habit of dating the same types of women, despite my conscious attempts to choose women who are different?  Specifically, I have a tendency to date women who are disorganized -- they habitually run late, and can't manage their money: two traits that bother me, because they smack of irresponsibility and/or a lack of self-control. Also, most women whom I date are politically and religiously conservative. I am neither of those.

I realize that at some (unconscious) level, I am choosing them. But, how do I stop doing that? Thanks!

Dear ATWW,

Well, I'm assuming by "different," you mean, "better for you," because otherwise, you would have happily settled down with one of your usual types by now.  Here is the key to understanding why you do this: We are drawn subconsciously to what is familiar, or to what makes us feel familiar.

Imago theory states that we pick mates who are a mix of the positive and negative traits of our caregivers; at first, in the honeymoon stage, the positive traits are more salient/visible to us, and then, when the disillusionment stage sets in, we see the negative ones.  (It would be useful to read Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition for more on imago theory.) So I'm assuming that one of your caregivers was irresponsible or uncontrolled in some way, and/or closedminded (since I would imagine this is what a liberal like yourself thinks of a conservative).  The idea is that you have a subconscious fantasy to get someone like your caregiver, and change them into someone who fulfilled you like a caregiver couldn't do when you were a child.

So let's say that your mom was always running around disorganized and getting you places late, or seemed very closedminded.  As a child you couldn't make her be on time or make her see other points of view, which was disappointing. So as an adult, you first of all become punctual and liberal-minded yourself, as a reaction to your upbringing, and second, are subconsciously drawn to women who are irresponsible conservatives, so that you can fulfill your unconscious childhood wish of changing them into someone more organized/self-controlled/openminded.  A woman who starts out this way wouldn't have that hook for you; there is no fantasy to be fulfilled by changing them into what you want, in a way you didn't have the agency to change your caregiver when you were a child.

As you might expect, this doesn't usually go well, because you make all your passive aggressive jibes about them being late, and, since that was always their personality (although they may have masked it early in the relationship because they were so excited to see you that they were on time), they feel rejected and attacked.  Nobody wants to feel that you want to change them because their core traits are so unlikable.  And then they retreat or get mad and you get mad, and the relationship ends.

An important step for you is to acknowledge that you're drawn to women with these traits because you have a fantasy of changing them into something different. And this isn't going to go well.  You need to try to be self-aware and look specifically for women who are liberals and who are good with time and money.  You need to even specify these preferences in your profile if you do online dating (which every single person should; it's a treasure trove of people who all want the same thing: to be in a loving relationship).

However, if you try to specify your preferences and you end up finding these women to be boring, then you have to accept that for imago theory reasons and whatever else, you're only going to have a spark with women who are disorganized conservatives.  So, you must do some deep work to accept these traits as not horrible, and if you're with a woman like that, try to accept and love her for who she is, not help, enlighten, instruct, or change, as so many intelligent men are wont to try to do in relationships.  You may need to go to your own counseling to work on your tendency to be judgmental about these traits, and to enhance your ability to accept women for who they are. I mean, they may be messy and conservative but they aren't axe murderers.  Good luck!

Till we meet again, I remain, The Blogapist Who Loves Imago Theory.

For more, visit Dr. Rodman on Dr. Psych Mom, Facebook, and Twitter.
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fitsbi Contributor 2014-11-20 20:30:08 Public


Clutch Nutrition For High-Intensity Training

Sprints, jumps, and agility work can work wonders for body composition. But to get maximum results from your high-intensity efforts, back them up with smart nutrition and supplementation. Here's how!
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fitsbi Contributor 2014-11-24 02:30:40 Public


Molly Wizenberg

"When I walk into my kitchen today, I am not alone. Whether we know it or not, none of us is. We bring fathers and mothers and kitchen tables, and every meal we have ever eaten. Food is never just food. It's also a way of getting at something else: who we are, who we have been, and who we want to be."
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